{"id":4177,"date":"2026-05-02T09:05:06","date_gmt":"2026-05-02T01:05:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kllcdn.test-plesk.evischool.com\/?p=4177"},"modified":"2025-05-07T14:18:27","modified_gmt":"2025-05-07T06:18:27","slug":"how-to-deal-with-a-bad-temper","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kllck.edu.hk\/kllcdn\/how-to-deal-with-a-bad-temper\/","title":{"rendered":"How to deal with a bad temper?"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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Firstly, we must understand that it is extremely important for children to be able to express the emotion of anger for their development of autonomy. During early childhood (around two to three years old), the developmental crisis is precisely \u2018development of autonomy\u2019 versus \u2018shame and doubt\u2019 (Autonomy vs. Shame & Doubt). What we should address is the behavior resulting from the child\u2019s emotions, not to prohibit or even negate the child\u2019s emotions.<\/p>

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Additionally, anger is a common emotion, experienced by both children and parents. When children attempt to express their anger, they often model their parents\u2019 behavior. If parents display anger towards their children, or if there is arguing between parents, children will use these behaviors as important references for developing and controlling their emotions (Bandura, 1977). Arguments between parents, malicious teasing, or even violence can heighten children\u2019s sensitivity to anger and disrupt their normal development (Cummings, Pellegrini, Notarius, & Cummings, 1989). Therefore, for children to have a good temperament, parents must first pay attention to their own ways of interacting.\u201d<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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What methods can help young children better control and reduce the intensity of their anger? Berkowitz and Thompson offer the following suggestions (Berkowitz, 1973; Thompson, 1990):<\/p>

  1. Ignoring offensive behaviors: If the behavior is aimed at obtaining a specific object (such as a toy), parents should not satisfy the child due to their behavior, nor should they punish them for it; simply not responding may suffice.<\/li>
  2. Use of a \u2018calm down corner\u2019: Set up a quiet area in the home, free from any stimuli or attractions, as a space for children to calm down. When a child has an emotional outburst or behaves inappropriately, they can be sent to this calm down corner. This isn\u2019t necessarily a form of reprimand but a way to allow the child\u2019s emotions to settle, similar to the need to use the restroom; it\u2019s a normal requirement. If used appropriately, when children feel emotional in the future, they might naturally go to the calm down corner to soothe themselves.<\/li>
  3. Evoking emotions incompatible with anger, especially empathy for the victim.<\/li>
  4. Reducing exposure to situations or objects that may trigger the child\u2019s anger: Before children have fully developed self-control, reducing opportunities for anger also means reducing conflicts between parents and children.<\/li>
  5. Explaining the consequences of their behavior.<\/li>
  6. Examining the causes of the angry emotions.<\/li><\/ol>

    (Development Through Life, Barbara M. Newman, Philip R. Newman, Wadsworth, 2003, pp. 197)<\/p>

    The above strategies can be tailored to different situations. For instance, if a child acts violently out of anger, parents can focus on explaining the consequences and evoking empathy for the victim. If a child is throwing a tantrum to obtain an object, parents can ignore their negative behavior. Additionally, these strategies can be combined; for example, after a child has calmed down in the calm down corner, parents can explain the consequences of their actions. Ultimately, the choice of strategy should depend on the child\u2019s capabilities; for example, explaining the consequences in detail to a child who cannot yet speak might only increase conflict.<\/p>

    Once parents have decided on a strategy for each situation, the most important aspect is consistency. Simply put, consistency can be divided into two aspects: firstly, the same behavior should always result in the same outcome, avoiding a situation where ignoring is used one time and scolding another, which can confuse the child. Secondly, every caregiver should use the same approach to reinforce the message that \u201cthis behavior is inappropriate.\u201d<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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